Past insecurities creep up sometimes

I am blessed to have found a man that loves me unconditionally, who treats me like a queen and shows me that I am the only woman in his life. But sometimes, no matter how secure the relationship, the past creeps up on you. Being in a 12 yr relationship built on infidelity, lies and pain, it makes you see & feel things that are not necessarily there in your current relationship. It is important to quickly catch those negative thoughts and dismiss them. If there is no obvious evidence of infidelity or broken trust, you must not feed into it. This type of insecurity can break down a strong union. Ladies! Be in control of your mind and emotions. Let go and let God. Blessings!

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Forgive without an apology

Over 15 years ago, I frantically drove up and down the Berlin Turnpike looking for my husband. I entered every single motel on that strip, slowly driving through each parking lot checking for his car. I called his cell phone countless times leaving numerous voicemails begging him to please answer me. With smudged eyeliner all over my face, I could barely see through the tears as I sped up and down the strip in my car. And if that wasn't bad enough, I had left behind my six year old daughter sleeping home alone (thankfully she didn't wake up). Talk about poor desperate choices! A woman's brokenness is usually rooted from childhood experiences. Insecurities planted way back before they became young adults. Beliefs of being less than or not good enough subconsciously programmed into the mind. It's not noticeable right away but it changes their behavior. Later in life, she accepts constantly being rejected, disrespected and manipulated by their spouse. Just like the ocean

Four years later

Today I started thinking that I really need to figure out what my purpose in life is. A voice whispered in my thoughts to help motivate women in bad relationships, those having a hard time dating and women who find it hard to love themselves first. I thought I could start a blog. To my surprise, I found this blog that I had started over four years ago. Reading my profile and my first two blogs back in 2010 brought me to tears. It was like if I was reading another person's hurt, yet it was my own. I just cant believe I went through all those years of pain. And here I am four years later with the love of my life.... remarried and happy! I cant wait to help my sisters out there find what I found.

The Opportunities are Endless

Had to take a break from doing my hair to bring you this nugget of inspiration! Watch the Vlog. Stop the excuses! The world is like an ocean of opportunities. It all comes down to YOU! Enjoy!! P.S. Stay tuned for my Side Hustle video coming soon.

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